It’s okay to be incredibly picky about who you spend your time and energy on. A huge part of what I did to turn my life completely around was break contact with people who did not support me and brought stress and drama to my life (this includes society’s traditional definition of “family” members. I have a much different definition of family now, and that means alot to me.)
At first, it felt like betrayal. Until I just really realized that when someone is determined to stay in a pit of misery and you start climbing out, if you offer a hand to help them out and they use it instead to try and pull you back in, sitting in there rotting away with them is of no help to anyone.
The next thing I did was using counselling and motivational and spiritual materials to build myself to a place where I would vibe with people who were where I wanted to be at. I didn’t go grumbling and begging for the charity of their positivity. I showed up with my own renewed light and something great to bring to the table. And I kept doing it. And kept doing it. And kept doing it. And kept doing it.
Look at the people who are closest to you and whom you spend the most time with. It is of utter importance. Here is why:
Attitudinal contagion: we subconsciously adopt the mindsets of the people we are closest to
Goal contagion: we assume the same aspirations of the dominant members of our circle of influence