“How did you get contact and attunement as a kid? What tactic did you use?”
I had just finished roasting a popular YouTuber, in her 30s, who makes baby faces and noises at the camera in a childlike attempt at attention. It triggered me big time.
“I didn’t. I didn’t do anything. I didn’t get connection…….oh wait, I got sick. That was how I got attention. Oh wait, no. That just made my mom hate me even more, so that can’t be it.”
“Hate. That’s connection and attention. To a child, it’s better than being ignored or neglected.”